Are you a slave or submissive?

 

HIGHER AND LOWER CAPITALS IN THE BDSM COMMUNITY:

I wrote these nouns ‘slave’ and ‘submissive’ in lower case, why? It is something that still remains from slavery in Roman times and still prevalent in the BDSM community today. Many aspects of Roman law still exist, along with Norman french, and the capitalisation of Master and Mistress is written to signify dominance and respect, ones power over another within the BDSM community. Their was a need to distinguish between slave and Master, Top and bottom in Roman times, and when Dioteclian came to power, the Latin terms Domina and Dominus became a legal contractual concept of ownership dealings in Roman society, as Mistress or Master over property. Who could become property? servire in Latin ‘to be a slave’, or servus, means ‘the slave’, in Ancient Rome, the slave was somebodies property, a chattel, a name always written in lower capitals.

 

ARE YOU A submissive OR slave?

In the modern BDSM context, being a submissive or slave comes in varying degrees. There are concepts like consensuality to consider and how far a bottom is willing to surrender themselves to slavery and it what form. The other important point is that a submissive is not necessarily a ‘slave’, though a slave should surely be submissive to enter into this kind of relationship.

If you are not sure or uncertain about your own submission or slavery, here are some questions to ask yourself that can help point you in the right direction.

  • Do you yearn for your fantasy, strive for it?
  • What does discipline mean to you?
  • Who would you submit to? Why?
  • Are you submissive in your daily life?
  • Are you looking to just play? or for a relationship?
  • Ever given thought to why being submissive is not for you?
  • Do you know the difference between submission and slavery?
  • If you think you are a slave, why?
  • Where do you think your submission comes from?
  • Do you experience submission in any form in your daily life?
  • What kind of activities do you think should be part of  your submission?
  • If you think you are more into slavery, what do you think that should involve?
  • Do you think punishment should be part of your submission?
  • Do you think your submissive needs are being met right now?
  • Do you have feelings of wishing to be taken ‘in hand’?
  • If you have been dominated or controlled in any way at home, work or socially, how did it feel?
  • If it was a good experience why? If not, why not?
  • How long have you had submissive feelings for?
  • If you’ve wanted to explore your submission or feelings of wanting to be a slave for a long while, what has stopped you from doing so?
  • If you think you are a slave, not just submissive, why do you think that is?
  • If your submissiveness has always remained a fantasy, what do you think the reality would feel like? why?
  • What do you think your ideal reality as a slave or submissive would be?
  • Is this something you have thought about your whole life?
  • Is this something you have thought about purely as sexual experimentation?
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