So, a change of scenery, throwing back my hair, kicking my shoes up, replenishing all engines, is important. Any Mistress that can only “work” when on holiday is not giving herself the time to reflect and acknowledge her true down/relax time. It can have later repercussions such as burnout. Yes, no matter how “lifestyle” we choose to be or are, we like to take time off, it’s a fine balance. I have come back after my hols and oh my!, my rejuvenation is fantastic.
I could have gone pure BDSM about it, there are many places that cater for play enthusiasts but, I didn’t. Surf, sea, scuba, sand, woodland, climbing all good stuff. I think slaves & subs sometimes think that a Mistress will only have a BDSM holiday, spoiler alert; lifestyle Mistresses also have other interests. It gives us substance, experience, can teach skills (climbing and rope work for example).
For those that want to try holidays that are BDSM (they are great fun too), there are many options. SM Airbnb, self catering cottages, cruises, hotels, even package holidays. Here are a few to consider:-
There are many Dominants that have, on occasion, had someone interested in a ‘household position’. Alot of applicants have missed the memo. A household or domestic position and applying for one, is not unlike any other job. The applicant must show they are able to clean, organise, perhaps fix and mend, be sociable, have necessary skills, with reliability and trust, because they reaĺly want the position.
This kind of work should have an innate feeling of respect, wanting to please a Dominant with the best skills, in an understanding environment. There must be a mutual understanding of one’s role, similar to the valet’s, housekeepers, maids and Butlers of yesteryear. There can be perks to this kind of obeyance, but, this should not be an automatic expectation.
Trust is very important, it is not built in a few hours, a day, or other, it takes its own time. The ‘employer’ needs to know if someone in a serving position will fit well and comfortably into her/his life and not make more work for them. There will usually be training involved, this can take up a lot of time. If someone is not right, or omitted important information about themselves, this process can be a massive waste of time.
On application into servitude, the applicant must be respectful, give experience, say why they are trustworthy and why they will be good at particular household work. Tell a Dom/me what skills they have, be ready to answer any questions.
Wrong: comments for a new household position:
I worked for someone licking their toilet.
I used to clean their panties.
I can wash and clean you when you want a bath or shower.
I have always used hot water and a mop on wooden floorboards (without knowledge of different woods).
I think I’m alright at washing dishes.
Use me in your playtime, for anything.
I can only be around Wednesdays from 11am-2pm, every other week, you cannot contact me.
I will do “abc” for your home and “oh, by the way, I like defg”. If you are not into a household position unless there is a caveat, I like to have “abc” done to me…
Just say “I don’t like servitude unless there is playtime attached”. Be honest and you might be pleasantly surprised what comes your way.
An applicant will do well if they treat the situation like applying for any vanilla work. Of course, the questions might be different, along with the work and possible perks, but, the premise is the same, possibly tougher. After all, an applicant is entering somebodies home that could overlap into the employers personal space.
Want to be in servitude.
Have skills that stand out above the rest.
Enjoy making the Dom/me happy.
Dress well, show a potential employer/Dom/me that you take care of yourself.
Be focused on your employer, not yourself during work hours.
Think ahead about the God/dess, Top, Dom/me and their possible future needs.
If you cold call, you have to have a good reason why and an even better way to show you are a worthy applicant.
A Dominant is allowing the “particular” into their homes, and is probably rather busy and may not have time to forever watch over someone who might do a bad job just for attention, or just a bad job. There is a plethora of submissive’s, slaves and the like, who think they will have automatic play time because of good or bad work and, are not honest from the beginning. Enter new servitude with a good heart.
Do you know what kind of position you are looking for in a household? It is good to have some sort of idea. If you are uncertain, experimentation is a wonderful part of fetish and BDSM, so tell a prospective Dom/me about your situation. A Dom/me may want somebody to help for a short time, it is also you that knows what kind of “houehold” placement is right.
How long can a trainee take chastity and it’s devices? The denial and ability to for a submissive to touch themselves taken away. A control from the Mistress to allow a sub/slave under orders, to experience an ultimate form of bondage and have their rights to release taken away. Chastity teaches patience and that a submissive or bottom must learn how to correct themselves and bad behavior, otherwise allowed to run riot. It is always an interesting test for a highly sexed sub/slave to have to hold back their basic urges, have them taken away and find out whether they can handle themselves within the set rules of their Domina with obedience. However far the chastity continues is for the Mistress to decide once they feel the lesson has been taught through denial and Bondage.
When chastity is administered, the sub is bound to the Mistress/Top who holds the keys to a small amount of freedom the sub/slave is allowed, and what a great training tool it can be!
There are a lot of training devices around. One of the most familiar is the CB range but the market has now become more and more interesting with many different sophisticated ideas as to how to go about long term chastity.
Every now and then I like to be on the scene, without ‘being on the scene’. What do I mean? After a long time of ‘being around’, I like to watch what’s going on without getting too involved ‘now and then’. Sure, I’m about, but I think it’s important to do a bit of kinky gliding, I call it. If a Domme is going to stay strong for 20+ years, without getting dragged into ‘people politics’, and like any scene, there will always be that element, it’s fun to sometimes watch from a sideline. ‘Voyeur’ of a different type
Now, I’m diving in again. Mwah ha ha… some new slaves and subs I seem to have acquired, plenty, plenty of play & perving along the way, of course!! Well, I’m a perve! That’s that! Will keep you updated with my next exploits!